The Phone Problem There are lots of problems to mention here. There’s the problem of paying $300-400 for a new/discounted cell phone only to have to also pay $60 a month (or more) for the ability to make it work, all the while married to Sprint (or AT&T or Verizon or whoever) for two years. There’s the problem that I feel so attached to my phone that every time it makes a noise I feel the need to jump into action, see who is texting/posting/calling and immediately respond, feeling like a modern version of Pavlov’s dog. And, while I am acting like Pavlov’s dog with my phone, there is the problem of the real people who are physically present (mostly my wife and children) who I ignore so that I can quickly jump and tend to my phone.
This page came across my Facebook feed today: 7 Mistakes LDS Parents Make and How to Avoid Them
Over the past several years (well, more like the past 15 years) I have received an unwelcome, hands-on education about getting involved in the court system. After a lot of reflection (and disappointment), I came to realize that getting involved in the court system generally leads to unhappiness. This may be obvious to many, but it took me a while to realize that it is probably best to just to stay out of the court system. Stay away from the police, jail, traffic tickets, parking tickets, etc. My basic thinking was that if I am ever forced into one of these systems, I want to get out as quickly as possible. Pay the fines/bribes/whatever. Just get out.
Recently, I finally watched the film Boyhood. This film was released in July 2014. One unique thing about this movie is that it was filmed with the same actors over a 12 year period. The script evolved over time with input from the actors. I found that watching the movie made me think about parenting from a different angle. Hence, this post.
What and how I want to write is slowly evolving. I haven’t written many posts and most, well actually all of them, have been a recounting of facts of what has happened to me, or at least the facts as I see them. I think that I’m still going to write up some personal events, but as they are more personal, I’m going to keep those more private, password protected and probably not promoted. But, mostly I plan to write more that is less personal, less airing of dirty laundry. I know that I’m not a very good writer. At least, I have never considered myself to be a good writer. My word processor tells me I make lots of grammatical mistakes. Lots of spelling mistakes. But mostly, I just don’t find what I write compelling to read. I understand that the way to improve is to just write. So, that I is what I am going to try to do. I do hope to improve my writing and maybe even someone will find a few of my ideas and experiences compelling.