What is a bully? What do bullies do that is so bad? Is being bullied really bad and hurtful to someone? Is all bullying bad or only some types of bullying? Who can bully who? This is the first post in a 4 part series on bullying. A Definition of Bullying So that we know what we’re talking about, lets start with a definition bullying. I’ll let you do your own google search on bullying but here are the key points that I cobbled together: From the U.S. Government’s stopbullying.gov: Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior between individuals that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include: An Imbalance of Power: Individuals who bully use their power to control or harm others. Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once. From National Bullying Prevention Center: An act is bullying when: The behavior hurts, humiliates, or harms another person physically or emotionally. Those targeted by the behavior have difficulty stopping the action directed at them, and struggle to defend themselves. There is also a real or perceived imbalance of power between the parties. Finally, from Wikipedia: Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others.